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Inflexible Git

June 28, 2005 | Category: In My Life



OK, you know what? I have had a good long think and I've decided that it is perfectly ok to be pissed off.

In fact, I think that being pissed off in the moment is probably a much healthier way of life rather than stewing.

Elia is taking advantage of the situation and she's crossed the line.

I don't even KNOW this boyfriend - like his last name or driving record or if he's a frigging pedophile. So she shouldn't be putting my son in HIS car (without a carseat when I JUST told her that she is never never to do that) and then WALKING AWAY.

Good Heavens.

What am I, made of mashed potatoes?

So my standards are high. So what?! I'm the Mommy, I get to have the highest dang standards in the land if I want to - right?

Well, now I am good and steamed. Seriously. You could cook salmon on the mist that's rolling out my ears. I'm gonna go call Elia and lay done the law.

And then I am gonna do something else. Like go for a walk. Chase fireflies. Whatever.

I am woman.

Hear me roar!

I have to stop being such an inflexible git.

(Which is British for "Childish Pain the Ass")

Elia let Bear ride in her boyfriend's car today for a few blocks - without his carseat - and without her (but with his seatbelt) when it started to rain while they were at the park. (She walked home the other kids but wanted to make sure Bear stayed dry).

Bear's camp informed Elia when she picked Bear up that they were having a party tomorrow and we had to bring this that and the other thing of food.

My boss tried to force me to work during the only hour I had blocked off as unavailable tomorrow and even tried to get me to explain why I wouldn't make a last-minute meeting.

And all three of these things just made me mad.

It's summer, and lovely, and we have weeks and weeks of fun ahead. But I have turned brittle, and dry, and, yes, inflexible with my moods - things just seem to piss me off a little too easy. Since my health scare a couple of weeks ago, I am on edge.


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You have EVERY RIGHT to be FURIOUS with her for putting Bear in the car of her boyfriend. How well does she even know him?

That would give me the complete shits!!!

Line crossed. Seriously.

Posted by: Eyes for Lies on June 29, 2005 11:23 PM


OMG I would be pissed too. The carseat issue is that it is the law and your child safety is number one. The boyfried issue creeps me out she should not associate with him will on the job. Her concern is taking care of your child. I would totally talk to her.

Posted by: crystal on June 29, 2005 09:44 AM


ROAR momma roar! I would do the exact same thing in your place.

You are the momma, and it's your right, heck it's your job to make sure that little Bear of yours is safe at all times. If you can't personally look after him to insure it then you have the most compitent people you can find do it for you, and in this case Elia has proven she is not compitent to look after him.

She's made repeatedly made poor choices over the last few days and I wouldn't wait another second before having a talk with her. If you think you two can fix the situation, make her understand where you are coming from then I wouldn't dump her, yet. But if she keeps up the poor choices I woulnd't hesitate the next time around. I guess, if it were me, I wouldn't want my own little man upset about changing care-givers when he obviously has a strong relationship with Elia. At least not if it's something that can be fixed. If not then his safety is the most important thing of all.

Posted by: Lissy on June 29, 2005 08:17 AM


I'm less concerned about the carseat (although I'm very concerned about that!) than I am about the boyfriend. Elia is Bear's caregiver - not her boyfriend. What the hell was he even doing there? Is he spending time in your home? Alone with your son? My husband doesn't even get to come to work with me. Of course, my husband has a job - what is this guy's story?

I'm a working mother myself but I'm still very shocked to see how much control over your son you have relinquished to this caregiver, her family and now her boyfriend.

Posted by: angela on June 29, 2005 07:23 AM


uh-uh. fuck that. You're the mom. You need to set down the rules and she needs to follow them. No exceptions. DO NOT let her start pushing the envelope because THIS IS YOUR CHILD AND SHE NEEDS TO RECOGNIZE THAT SHE IS DEALING WITH PRECIOUS CARGO.

Posted by: kalisah on June 28, 2005 10:03 PM


OMG, I would be more than furious. You need to find another provider and yank him--FAST!

Posted by: Christina on June 28, 2005 09:42 PM


OMG, I'd be furious. I'm a carseat nazi though so no one should be surprised. You definitely need to have a vital talk and start researching other childcare.

Posted by: A.K. on June 28, 2005 08:32 PM